Change Your Mindset

//Change Your Mindset

Change Your Mindset

Change Mindset

Past failure does not predict future results, ask any successful entrepreneur. And failing at something does not make us failures. A key characteristic of anyone who is good at anything is a Growth Mindset, as opposed to a Fixed Mindset.

They never allow themselves to be defined by past events, successes or failures. They continually seek to learn and grow, so they never torture themselves over their present shortcomings. They know they may be rotten at something today, but that with enough persistence and practice, they will become good in the future.

They concentrate upon the job at hand, work at improving their skills, and do not fixate upon distant outcomes. As Winston Churchill said, ‘Continuous effort, not strength or intelligence, is the key to unlocking our potential.’ And they never compare themselves with others. How far anyone else is on their path in life is irrelevant.

People with Fixed Mindsets, on the other hand, tend to believe that ability is pre-determined. Some people are born gifted and that if you are not one of the lucky ones there’s no point in fighting it. Mistakes are bad and shameful and should be covered up. Other people’s successes make them feel uncomfortable. Ultimately their future prospects are in the hands of the Government, the economy, their boss, or the National Lottery.

The good news is that we can change the way our brains work, our habit of thinking, by developing new habits. The brain over time will rewire itself to reflect our choices. In a recent London University study, they found it takes an average 66 days to ingrain a new habit, but that there was considerable variation between people and types of habit.

Suggestions for changing your mindset

To start to train/rewire your brain, don’t complain about anything for seven days, neither aloud nor inside your head. The frequent temptation to complain will make you aware of your belief that life ‘should’ be better – a sure sign of having a fixed mindset. Instead, try to look at all the circumstances of your life with gratitude. It will make you start feeling lucky, and lucky people find it much easier to spot opportunities and have the energy to take action. Be happy now – don’t wait for some future occurrence.

Fake-it-until-you-make-it. This works because the subconscious mind cannot tell the difference between reality and what you tell it. There is only O N E voice that matters, the one in your head, and you can force it to say what you want it to say. You don’t even need to believe it because in time you will. The internationally renowned therapist Marisa Peer has a lot of useful knowledge about ‘I Am Not Enough’. Take a look at her work on Youtube.

Lastly, learn to laugh at yourself and your worries. Most of what you worry about will never happen. A good sense of humour is the perfect antidote to ‘desperate energy’ – the fearful energy that pushes things away from you.